Is coaching what I want?

What is coaching? Is it what I want? Will it work?

Here you will find answers to your questions: what is coaching, is it what I want and will it work for me. Read and reflect then  CONTACT ME!

What is it?

Coaching is a professional service where coach and client work together in partnership in a thought-provoking and creative process of exploration. The coach is like a mirror that listens, talks and observes. Noticing your habits or reactions, a coach’s presence can inspire you to self-assess and take action using your personal and professional potential.

Successful coaching is when a client learns more about themselves and takes steps forward of their own choosing from which they learn and grow.

Is coaching what I want?

These questions summarise what clients have been asking as they join me in coaching. Read them and consider if any apply to you:

    • Do you feel dissatisfied or stuck or that you aren’t reaching your full potential?
    • Do you harbour unspoken fears or worries at work or home that influence behaviours you want to change?
    • Is there a gap of where you are now to where you want to be?
    • Do you sometimes feel you don’t have the skills, resources or confidence to do what you want?
    • Are you so busy that you have forgotten what you really want?
    • Do you sometimes feel stuck and put off making decisions or fail to stick to those resolutions you have made?
    • Is it time your answers were questioned?
    • Do you need a thoroughly good listening to?

If the answer is yes to any of these question, then coaching might be very helpful for you.

Will it work?

The coach provides a safe confidential space. Their training and experience provides the framework of the process where intense listening and questions come.  Like a mirror with excellent lighting or microphone that picks up all the noise, coaching can be uncomfortable.  Clients who get the most from coaching are ready to reflect with the coach and entertain new and fresh ideas of their own making. They come to sessions with things they want to work on and are ready to try things out even if it may be uncomfortable. The coach is your partner safe and non-judgemental. She is not a prop!  These client testimonies are real and give you an idea of what ‘works’.

What happens?

Our coaching takes place over a number of pre-arranged structured confidential sessions. Our first session will be exploratory as you lay out your “map”. In subsequent meetings, the agenda is yours. The process and framework is held by your coach who may challenge you to look behind the agenda to what really matters and where new challenges lie.  My coaching complies  to the Coaching Code of Conduct which you can find here

A session usually last between 45mins and 1 hour

During coaching sessions you will make plans to take action. You will be responsible for the decisions you take.

What coaching is not

Coaching is not an advisory or therapy service. Of course, there may be some tough questions but our coaching service will not judge or assess you.

How to get the best from coaching – top tips

To get the greatest benefit from the investment you make for coaching:

    • Come to the session prepared having reflected on recent experience-make notes
    • Have an idea of a change you want to make or an area of life or work that is bothering you
    • Be honest with yourself
    • Trust yourself
    • Be ready to make a commitment to take action

I think I want to start coaching now. What do I do?

What are you waiting for? Your first step is to CONTACT ME!

We will talk over your understanding of this service and what you are hoping to get out of it. We will look at a package that best fit your needs now.

Let’s make it worth it! Make a resolution to stick to!

Knowing Me- Week 8 BeDoHave

To Be, To Do or To Have

In Knowing Me Week 8, its December 2019 and we enter into the spirit of the festive season! We are getting in touch with our hopes and ambitions.

The lists and the circle you make here may help with your resolutions for 2020 (and beyond if you are reading this later)!

As the regulars among you know, the Knowing Me Project is all about getting to know ourselves better. You could add to that challenge, being more honest about ourselves.

For more about the project and links to all the previous wonderful weeks look here. If in doubt contact me for more info!

So whats it to be? A cup of tea, a glass of something else? Either way, get the pen and paper or whatever you use to capture your thoughts and here we go…

The lists

Take a page and divide it into three columns labeled Be, Do, Have.  Under each title allow your imagination and inner thoughts take over as you list all the things you want to be, do or have (try your best to avoid writing what you think you should write!). NOTE The words in the columns don’t have to link across. Let your lists grow and when you think you have run out ask:  What else?

Keep this list safe, putting it one side and prepare to make your circle

The Circle

Sometimes this is called a wheel. This is how it works:

step 1

List the things in your life that are really important to you. This is your choice  and everyone is different. Often, it is family, or friends, fitness, health, work, finance, community etc. It may change from time to time.

step 2

DRAW a circle – your cake – and divide it into as many slices as you have important things up to around 8.

Put each of the important things from step one into each of the slices (see the example from one of my clients)

step 3

Ask yourself two things:  

  1. Why does this segment matter to me?
  2. For each segment, if the outer rim is 10/10 and everything is fine and the centre is 0/10 what score would I give this segment based on how I feel it is going? 

If you are the colouring-in kind of a person, you might like to shade in. So that if you are feeling that work is presently at 50% of what you would like you will shade in 50% from the centre.

step 4

When you have your thoughtful circle completed, look back at your be do have lists above. Do you see things in one that is not in the other? Is there and alignment?  

step 5

With all this reflection and with a new year just around the corner ask yourself:

Is there a segment I would particularly like to work on, to make improvements in my life?  What is the first thing I could do?

If this game or any of the proceeding weeks has made you think and you would like  some guidance on moving forward with coaching. Give me a call!

Acknowledgements – thanks for this exercise to many coaches and in particular to The Coaching Academy