Is coaching right for me?

How do I know if coaching is right for me?

Many new and potential clients are confused about what coaching entails and whether it’s right for them. If the answer is yes to any of these question, then coaching is right for you and can most definitely support you.

  • Do you feel that you aren’t reaching your potential?
  • Is there a gap of where you are now to where you want to be?
  • Do you sometimes feel you don’t have the skills, resources or confidence to do what you want?
  • Do you sometimes feel stuck and put off making decisions or fail to stick to those resolutions you have made?
  • Are you ready to entertain new and fresh ideas, even if it may be uncomfortable?
  • Are you willing to be accountable for what you want?

So what is Coaching?

Put simply, coaching is a tool that is used to empower or enable individuals to identify and make pathways towards what they want. It is a structured conversation that takes place in a professional environment between the coach and the client. 

What coaching is not

Coaching is not about your coach giving you suggestions or advice. I am not mentoring or counselling you. It is not psychological therapy and will not make an assessment of you.

How does coaching work?

Different coaches use different models to structure their sessions. The models all have the same intention: to provide a structure for a conversation that will reveal your aspirations, the reasons or values that underpin them and pathways to realise them. 

Coaching keeps you moving forward towards your intentions while learning and becoming aware of yourself through the experience.  The intention is always to find the resources in you as we learn together what is possible.

During coaching sessions you will make plans to take action.  I will listen to you and ask questions to help you reflect on the purpose and direction of your plans and their potential to affect others. You will be responsible for the decisions you take.

A session usually last between 45mins and 1 hour. 

Special sessions may give you an opportunity to explore in more depth what motivates you, what personal preferences and values you live by.

Who else will know what has been said?

A coaching session is completely confidential. I  comply to the Coaching Code of Conduct which you can find here

What does the coach need from me during a session?

Not surprisingly, clients who get the greatest benefit from the investment they make for coaching are those who come to the session prepared. They have reflected and come with an idea for a change they want to make or work towards.

Collecting your thoughts and ensuring that you are relaxed and ready makes a difference. You may also need a pen and paper to hand and any other items that you may think will be useful such as a diary and other ways of recording your plans and commitments.

I think I want to start coaching now. What do I do?

Your first step is to CONTACT ME!

We will talk over your understanding of this service and what you are hoping to get out of it. We will look at a package to fit your needs. Our first session will look in greater depth a what coaching can do for you. If you decide it is not for you, you will not be charged for this.  Nothing ventured etc etc

Make a resolution to stick to!

Knowing Me- Week 8 BeDoHave

To Be, To Do or To Have

In Knowing Me Week 8, its December 2019 and we enter into the spirit of the festive season! We are getting in touch with our hopes and ambitions.

The lists and the circle you make here may help with your resolutions for 2020 (and beyond if you are reading this later)!

As the regulars among you know, the Knowing Me Project is all about getting to know ourselves better. You could add to that challenge, being more honest about ourselves.

For more about the project and links to all the previous wonderful weeks look here. If in doubt contact me for more info!

So whats it to be? A cup of tea, a glass of something else? Either way, get the pen and paper or whatever you use to capture your thoughts and here we go…

The lists

Take a page and divide it into three columns labeled Be, Do, Have.  Under each title allow your imagination and inner thoughts take over as you list all the things you want to be, do or have (try your best to avoid writing what you think you should write!). NOTE The words in the columns don’t have to link across. Let your lists grow and when you think you have run out ask:  What else?

Keep this list safe, putting it one side and prepare to make your circle

The Circle

Sometimes this is called a wheel. This is how it works:

step 1

List the things in your life that are really important to you. This is your choice  and everyone is different. Often, it is family, or friends, fitness, health, work, finance, community etc. It may change from time to time.

step 2

DRAW a circle – your cake – and divide it into as many slices as you have important things up to around 8.

Put each of the important things from step one into each of the slices (see the example from one of my clients)

step 3

Ask yourself two things:  

  1. Why does this segment matter to me?
  2. For each segment, if the outer rim is 10/10 and everything is fine and the centre is 0/10 what score would I give this segment based on how I feel it is going? 

If you are the colouring-in kind of a person, you might like to shade in. So that if you are feeling that work is presently at 50% of what you would like you will shade in 50% from the centre.

step 4

When you have your thoughtful circle completed, look back at your be do have lists above. Do you see things in one that is not in the other? Is there and alignment?  

step 5

With all this reflection and with a new year just around the corner ask yourself:

Is there a segment I would particularly like to work on, to make improvements in my life?  What is the first thing I could do?

If this game or any of the proceeding weeks has made you think and you would like  some guidance on moving forward with coaching. Give me a call!

Acknowledgements – thanks for this exercise to many coaches and in particular to The Coaching Academy